Conflict: An Invitation to Creative Problem-Solving

Beethoven’s Ninth Symphony has been described as ‘a musical rendition of how to move from internal and external conflict to joyous resolution’
‘… no matter how deep the shadows may be, how sharp the conflicts, how tense the mistrust reflected in what is said and done in our world of today, we are not permitted to forget that we have too much in common, too great a sharing of interests and too much that we might lose together, for ourselves and for succeeding generations, ever to weaken in efforts to surmount the difficulties and not to turn the simple human values, which are our common heritage, into the firm foundation on which we may unite our strength and live together in peace.’
(excerpts from ‘Remarks at United Nation’s Day Concert’ in Public Papers of the Secretaries-General of the United Nations, Vol. 5, Dag Hammarskjold, 1960-1961).

Daily reflections and practices:

Internal conflict reflects outward for you to see what needs to be healed within. When seeing or experiencing conflict occurring, reflect on what lesson this situation has for you about yourself.

Love and Peace are beings who live a possibilities within you. How are you going to bring this awareness forward today and ongoing?

Wisdom is not age bound

Angeles Arrien says, “Wisdom is the art of reflection, integration and equanimity. Reflecting upon our experience allows us to integrate what we have learned, which brings more balance and acceptance into our nature-the experience of equanimity! What are you learning in your relationships or work at this time? How are you relating to the polarities, oppositions or creative tensions that have surfaced for you internally and externally? Where do you feel whole and intact?” Remember, wisdom is not age bound.

Twelve Signs of Inner Peace

I thought of you when I found this information on Saskia Davis’s website. Her information is inspirational to strive for as well as for assessing how far you’ve come in your life.   

  1. Tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than from fear that is based from past experiences
  2. An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment
  3. Loss of interest in judging yourself
  4. Loss of interest in judging other people
  5. Loss of interest in conflict
  6. Loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others
  7. Loss of ability to worry
  8. Frequent overwhelming episodes of appreciation
  9. Contented feelings of connectedness with others and nature
  10. Frequent attacks of smiling through the eyes of the heart
  11. Increasing susceptibility to love extended by others, as well as the uncontrollable urge to extend it
  12. Increasing tendency to let things happen rather than to make them happen

Saskia suggests the following monthly practice:

Identify which of these 12 Inner Peace items are still challenging for you at this time.

As a practice, spend a day with each challenge. And, track what or who you allow to trigger inner disturbances or reactivity to sustaining your inner peace.

A practice to foster and increase tolerance and compassion for ourselves and others

For the purpose of strengthening your ability to gently hold paradoxes and opposing feelings, thoughts, perspectives and experiences, try this practice of reflection and contemplation.

Feel free to use any of the couplets below and/or write down your own contrarieties that you are experiencing internally and externally.

  • Those whose thinking is similar and contrary:
  • Joys and sorrow:
  • Doubt and faith:
  • Giving and receiving:
  • The helpful and the helpless:
  • _____________:
  • _____________:
  • _____________:

Now, after each couplet, add the blessing, “let them grow together”. 

  • Those whose thinking is similar and contrary: let them grow together.
  • Joys and sorrow: let them grow together.
  • Doubt and faith: let them grow together.
  • Giving and receiving: let them grow together.
  • The helpful and the helpless: let them grow together.
  • _____________: let them grow together.
  • _____________: let them grow together.
  • _____________: let them grow together.

What stirs in you after adding the blessing, “let them grow together”? 

For a 2 week period or longer if you wish, read the couplets that have special meaning to you and reflect on how this practice helped you create greater capacity of holding diversity and differences without making them ‘right or wrong’, ‘good or bad’, ‘positive or negative’.

By extending a blessing of allowance and an intent of letting them find their way together, how wondrous did you feel when you were able to let them grow together?

By incorporating this practice in your daily life, you’ll sense and experience a decrease in fear and polarizing positioning; and an increase in tolerance and compassion for self and others.

Refraining from Six Mistakes

For the month of January, make a daily discipline of refraining from these six mistakes that limit you and others:

  1. The illusion that personal gain is made up of crushing others.
  2. The tendency to worry about things that cannot be changed or corrected.
  3. Insisting that a thing is impossible because you cannot accomplish it.
  4. Refusing to set aside trivial preferences.
  5. Neglecting development and refinement of the mind.
  6. Attempting to compel others to believe and live as you do.
    – Marcus Tulliu Cicero, Roman Statesman (3 January 106 BC – 7 December 43 BC)

What discoveries, changes and opportunities revealed themselves as a result of you incorporating the practice of refraining from these repetitive mistakes?  Now, what are you going to do next to address these counterproductive habits?

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